Oct 15, 2018

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All my life, I wanted to stay in my own house. And then when I bought one 6 years ago, for some reason, I couldn’t stay there for long and had to let it out. I never figured out why people got so attached to a place. I mean, it’s just bricks and mortar. And plaster and pipes.

Now I am beginning to understand why. Or at least, I think I do.

Understandably, the numbers don’t make sense. With interest rates being what they are and rental yields in low single digits, from a pure numbers perspective, it is always better to rent than buy. Or at least, that’s what I kept saying.

Still, when I saw your happiness at the prospect of getting our own place and doing it up to your satisfaction, I understood the meaning of that old adage “Not everything that counts, can be counted; not everything that can be counted, counts; .”

“Happiness Quotient” - a friend calls it. ‘HQ’. It’s not as easy to measure as IQ. It’s in the same fuzzy place as that other HR favourite, EQ. In this age of Big Data, when everything we do can be turned into a metric and possibly monetized, I guess someone somewhere will figure out a way to sell us happiness. Till then, we make it ourselves...

"A place to call our own". A place to build our dreams together. A place where we will grow old together. A place we will look forward to come back to, when we wander the world.

I now understand what ‘settling down’ means.

Life is not just about seeking new experiences and seeing new places and tasting new cuisines. That part is important, but...

“Old-fashioned stuff matters too” – You have taught me that. A sense of familiarity. A sense of belonging. A sense of being rooted. A sense of comfort.

Viewed from this perspective, it is starting to make sense.  Why you buy stuff from the same shop every time. Why your dad goes to the same doctor for 15 years. Why the fruit vendor calls out to you and ensures you buy more than we need. Why you feel that the place you live in is the best place in the world, squabbling neighbours notwithstanding.

Even as I come around to appreciate this ‘settling down’ business, a small part of me holds on to the romance of the nomadic life. I never knew settling down would be so unsettling.

You have made it easier. You have turned a drab place with four walls and a ceiling into a space filled with warmth and happiness. You have turned a house into our home. And in that process, you have helped me learn to forget the pressure of the EMI and taught me to enjoy the fleeting joys of the here and now.

Only YOU could have done it.

Undeniably so.

Feb 14, 2018

Eleven and counting...

Last year, I promised to end a 10-year long tradition of writing bad rhyme on V-day. After all, the whole point of putting up those posts had been to crib about my non-existent love life, and once I got married (to the most wonderful woman possible!), I had figured that there was no point continuing the mandatory annual crib fest.

But certain things have a way of stubbornly coming back. Like Afridi in cricket. Bad loans in SBI. Terminator II. That piece of turd in the pot after multiple flushes. And SRK rhyming on V-day.

On that stinky note, here goes this year's edition:

After a decade of pretending to be clever and witty
While basically making crap jokes about all things shitty
When you realize it’s V-day, but you’re no longer single
A chill runs down your spine, your toes start to tingle
You are supposed to gift your wife something pretty!

She already has too many clothes, in blue and green,
And lots of shoes, all arranged in a box neat and clean,
You buy her a perfume and she starts to think...
Is he just being nice, or do I actually stink?!?
Gifting is complicated, you know what I mean!

Cook her a nice meal, something she loves to eat?
Except all I know is to make sambar with beet!
Get her some chocolates and really nice flowers?
Or treat her to a good dinner in a place with happy hours?
To figure out what would work, I need some superpowers!

In the end, the miser in me didn’t pick up any gift
Plus I ended up working the graveyard shift
So the least I could do was to stay up and write
Some lines that I could dedicate to Mrs. Right
To the one whose smile gives me a mood lift!

Next year, maybe I will actually buy some stuff
Maybe over time, gifting won’t seem so tough
For now, I’ll just say thank you for coming into my life
And more importantly, for agreeing to be my wife
That’s all I could do this year, I hope it is enough!


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PS: Maybe this can continue. After all, traditions need to be upheld! 







Jan 20, 2018

Happy New Year 2018

Once upon a time, more than two and half decades ago, there lived a kid who was fascinated by comic-book superheroes. Come summer vacations, he would gather all the old Phantom and Mandrake comics at his cousins' place, and read them over and over again, magically being transported to dark jungles in Africa.

During one such carefree year, some marketing genius comes up with an idea. It is a very simple one: Send us 100 wrappers of our chocolate, and you will get a Batman Mask! As best as the grown-up kid can remember, it was Nutrine Maha Lacto, but he is getting old now, and his memory is no longer as awesome as he remembers it to be. In any case, the kid pesters his father to buy him a chocolate every day. Thankfully, the kid's father is a sensible man and refuses to do such stupid things.

He is constantly looking at ways to collect wrappers, and may have lifted some off the garbage pile at the end of the street. After about 2 weeks of such trauma, he is no where close to the magic number of 100 wrappers. He is this close to giving up, resigning himself to the fact that he is never going to be a night time crime fighting superhero, since he has to be home by 8.30 everyday in any case to finish dinner and sleep by 9.00.

But fortune favours the brave foolish, so the kid gets a Eureka moment. His younger brother's birthday is coming up, and we have this wonderful tradition of wearing a 'colour dress' to school, and going class to class to distribute chocolates to all our fellow sufferers students. We also share the chocolates with our kindly neighbours. So, the kid pleads with his parents to buy a whole bag of Nutrine Maha Lacto, and goes home to home, distributing the sweets and insisting they eat it right away and return the wrapper to him. 

And thus, 100 wrappers are collected, carefully sorted and counted and re-counted, smoothed over and some of them washed and dried carefully, and the whole lot is put in a nice, big envelope and posted to the address given in the advertisement in the Hindu. And then, he waits. And waits. Everyday, he comes back from school, eager to see whether the old postman uncle has brought his magical crime-fighting mask.

After about a month of rushing back from school everyday to find that the mask has still not come, after days of cribbing about the inefficient postal department, after weeks of wondering whether the kindly postman uncle was secretly a thief who simply stole the mask for his own children, our hero comes back one day to find that THE MASK HAS BEEN DELIVERED!

He eagerly unwraps the package, his arms shaking with unbridled anticipation, only to find.... a single sheet of black cardboard paper, with two eye-holes in them, and two pointy ears, and two holes in the side through which his mom would tie a thread so that he can 'wear' the mask. The kid is too young to realize it, but it was among the first of many such events in his life, events which in his older years, his hostel mates would refer to as the short form of the Kuala Lumpur Police Department.

From that day, the kid has hated, HATED, marketing people and their evil designs to get innocent kids and clueless adults trapped into buying shit they don't need. But that is not the purpose for which I narrate this long winded story. One doesn't relive a traumatic childhood incident 25 years later, simply to vent about evil marketers.

No, ladies and gentlemen, the reason why my brain pulled out this incident is because I went on a holiday to Shimla. On New Year's Eve. With the whole family.

On paper, it sounded like a great idea. A work trip had me traveling to Himachal right after Christmas. I was scheduled to come back on Friday the 29th. Then, I figured, who comes back from a nice, little hill station one day before the New Year weekend. So, I discussed it with my lovely wife (who has decided to continue living with me in spite of my disastrous planning), and we decided that it would be a capital idea, for her and my mom and bro to all fly down to Chandigarh and join me at Shimla, where we would spend the weekend and come back refreshed to tackle the mysterious challenges that 2018 would throw at us.

Hotels were booked, and flight tickets too. Woolen clothes were borrowed from relatives, and my old trekking gear was pulled out from the blackhole that we call our 'bed with storage box'. Cabs were arranged to get the three of them from Chandigarh to Shimla. Colleagues were excited too, saying it always snows in Shimla during New Year's, and we were told that walking hand-in-hand with your loved one along the Ridge with little snowflakes falling around you is a very romantic thing to do.

The work trip was a hard one, but the anticipation of a relaxing weekend helped me cope. And so, the four of us found ourselves in Shimla.

Let me give you a piece of advice. DON'T. EVER. GO. TO. SHIMLA.

I mean sure, the place has some positives, like the Hanuman temple at Jakhoo with a huge Hanuman statue which stands taller than Rio's 'Christ the Redeemer' in terms of sheer size, a couple of nice bakery shops which sell you overpriced cakes, the huge Indian Flag which inspires even an anti-national liberal like me. The weather was nice and pleasant, with the right amount of nip in the air. The hotel we stayed in was super nice, and had arranged a grand New Year's Eve buffet.

But...

I have seen a few hill stations in my life. Never have I seen a shitty place covered with concrete structures all over its slopes be called a hill station. The roads are narrow, and the Mall Road is crowded with shops filled with crooks who try to sell you 'Chingu' shawls, and the place is teeming with loud, drunk and horny Jats on New Year's Eve, making a wholesome nuisance of themselves and the place.

I simply couldn't wait to get out of that place. So, on 1st January, we finished our breakfast early, and decided we would drive out before the drunk Jats woke up from their hangover and tried to kill everyone on the road with their driving. And successfully reached Chandigarh by lunch, only to find that our flight out of Chandigarh was cancelled due to fog.

We decide to make a mad dash to Delhi by road to make our connecting flight from Delhi to Mumbai, only to realize that driving through fog means we are unlikely to make it. Flight tickets are cancelled, humongous amounts of cancellation charges paid, and when we try to book fresh tickets, we encounter the thrill of dynamic surge pricing. We make the bookings in any case, mainly because I just couldn't have spent a moment more than I was required to in that fog-infested land.

We book a flight for 9.40 pm after our driver assures us that he would get us to Delhi airport by 7.30 latest, and I build in my usual 1 hour margin of safety to that. But there are days when Murphy looks at your plans, goes bwa-ha-ha-ha-ha, and proceeds to burn them up and piss on their ashes.

We are delayed by bumper-to-bumper traffic, because I guess the whole city of Delhi had decided to take off for the weekend, and were all coming back the same hour. After frantic calling to multiple friends to figure out the quickest way of reaching the airport, exploring the option of actually getting down near a Metro station and making a dash for it through train, multiple prayers to all the 33 crore gods in the pantheon by my mom, our Sardar driver finally make it to the airport at 8.53 pm. Wahe Guru to you too bro!

Anusha rushes ahead to the counter, I get the luggage and we all reach the line panting like a pack of rabid dogs. Only for the counter guy to say "counter closes 45 minutes before departure, and you are late".

Given that I couldn't have used the usual Delhi residents' counter of "tu jaanta hai kya mera baap kaun hai?" since it is extremely unlikely that the Go Air chap sitting there would have ever had the pleasure of meeting with the gentle, always polite (Late) Mr. Vijayaraghavan, I resorted to the only other trick  in my book. I sat back and let Anusha negotiate.

There are a few perks to marrying a smart girl. One of them is that you get your boarding passes even after the counter is closed. And the other is that she doesn't blame you for a disastrous vacation. Or at least, she hasn't blamed me yet. Maybe she is waiting to use this card for an opportune time.

Let's hope not.

The End.

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PS: And thus, I return to blogging. Whether this will be a one-off rant, or a regular routine, remains to be seen.